Hi, My name is Meredith and I was made to be a girl mama. I love all things pink, sparkly and ruffled; I love to accessorize and don’t go out of my house often without at least a little bit of makeup on; I never really wanted to be a mama, but God knew I needed kids to slow me down and fill my life with joy and happiness like never before. He also gave me a little bit of karma, because I am raising little girls JUST.LIKE.ME!!
Before I had kids of my own, I would wonder why parents couldn’t control their kids in the grocery store, or why kids didn’t listen to their parents. Is it really that hard to get control of your kiddos? Apparently, it is because I am now that mama that is being judge by others for my inability to “control my kids”
Now that I’m raising not 1, but 2 – Yes, TWO! Strong Willed Girls, I pray everyday that God gives me patience, understanding and a never ending supply of wine (or whiskey!) to survive. (maybe you ask for coffee)
I ask for patience to handle their need to do EVERYTHING on their own. I ask for understanding because I am not perfect and neither are they and do I even need to explain why I ask for alcohol (and/or coffee)?
Children are such a blessing in our lives. They bring out every emotion we could imagine. They push our buttons and then give us hugs. They don’t listen, respond or eat their dinner. They push you over the edge and wait for you to react, only to respond with an “I love you, mama”
I tend to loose my cool more often than I’d like to admit, but I remind myself that Strong Willed Girls will change the world. They could be olympic swimmers or motivational speakers. They could be CEOs or therapists. They could be doctors or police officers. They will be someones wife, someones mama, someones friend. They will be someones boss or someones coworker. I have to remind myself of this often, otherwise I may not survive motherhood!
Heres my advice for raising Strong Willed Girls.
Take it for what its worth because I am clearly no professional (who is?!)
- Have patience. It will be hard but it will be worth it. I remember one time my oldest was being a brat and come to find out she was just HANGRY! We can all relate right?
- Let them be independent. Both of my girls want to do everything themselves. Its a constant struggle because it takes them longer and they don’t always do things the way I want it done. I like to give them choices, so its as if they decided on their own, but its 2 options that I can agree with. For example, saying “would you like to wear ___________ OR ___________ ?” “Would you like pizza or hot dogs for dinner?” If you ask my 4 yr old what she wants to eat, the answer will almost always be spaghetti (insert eye roll!)
- Be aware of their emotions. Strong Willed Girls have big feelings. Its important to talk to them about why they are feeling the way they are and teach them ways to deal with or control their feelings.
- Be consistent. Strong Willed Girls know when you will back down. If you don’t back down, then they will eventually learn that as well. It may take longer than you’d hoped but consistency is key.
- Keep a Routine. This is important because they will learn boundaries and timing that will hopefully squash their need to do it their own way.
- Pray. This one seems to be the most important. Pray OVER your children, pray WITH your children and pray FOR your children. When nothing else seems to be working, continue to pray for YOUR OWN patience and understanding! HANG IN THERE MAMA! You are raising the next generation of Strong Willed Girls.